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  • Strike The Right Cord

    FAMILY LIFE

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    Children can be strangled by window cords on blinds and curtains. In fact, such tragedies are among the top hazards in American homes. Infants and children die each year from accidental strangling in the cords.

    The Consumer Product Safety Commission recommends that only cordless window coverings or those with unreachable cords be used in homes with young children. They are available today in the marketplace and will prevent window blind strangulations.

    In addition, the Window Covering Safety Council encourages parents, grandparents and caregivers to follow these basic cord-safety precautions:

    *  Move all furniture, cribs, beds, and climbable surfaces away from windows.

    *  Keep all window shades, blinds, and drapery cords well out of the reach of children.

    *  Install only cordless window coverings in homes with young children.

    © American Institute for Preventive Medicine

  • Forget Shouting

    WELL-BEING

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    While many people try to steer clear of arguments with family members, two Vanderbilt University philosophy professors offer a better solution.

    Scott F. Aikin and Robert B. Talisse co-wrote Why We Argue (and How We Should): A Guide to Political Disagreement. The trend to avoid arguments with loved ones has more to do with how bad we are at arguing than how strong our beliefs are, according to Aikin. “The better solution would be to improve our skill at making arguments in ways that allow for better, more reasoned exchange.”

    Aikin and Talisse suggest the following:

    *  Remember that reasonable and intelligent people disagree about important matters. Keep this in mind even when your relative says something appalling.

    *  When arguing, be sure to acknowledge your family member’s good points.

    *  Be prepared to say what it would take for you to change your mind. Consider what evidence would make your view wrong.

    *  Know the weak points about your view. Be able to articulate what the best arguments against your view are.

    “Acknowledging the opposition’s good points and seeing troubles for your own side are too often taken to be a sign of weakness,” Aikin said. “But it’s that attitude that actually makes us bad at argument and makes argumentative exchange so unpleasant and dogmatic. Instead, these habits make exchanges more reasonable and productive.”

    © American Institute for Preventive Medicine

  • Summer With Less Screens

    FAMILY LIFE

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    When the kids are home from school for the summer, it can be hard to avoid technology. Kids (and adults) are used to constant entertainment from the television, computer, smartphones and tablets. But, reducing screen time can have many benefits for families:

    *  Boredom is a great way for kids to learn to be creative. If they’re always entertained by a screen, kids don’t have a chance to be bored and to learn how to entertain themselves.

    *  Sitting in front of a screen means time not spent getting exercise.

    *  Some studies suggest that too much screen time can lead to behavior problems, lack of good thinking skills, and sleep problems.

    It’s not always realistic to avoid screens completely. If you can’t, look for ways to limit screen time. Try these tips:

    *  Choose certain times of day to be screen-free. For instance, you can choose to let kids have 30 minutes of screens after lunch, but morning is for screen-free play.

    *  Watch the clock. Decide on a daily limit of screen time, such as two hours, and stick with it. Consistent rules help kids know what they can expect each day, so there is less complaining.

    *  Visit the library. If you can get kids to read books they like, they won’t miss screens as much.

    *  When you do watch TV, watch shows together as a family. Choose educational shows when possible.

    Have a plan

    A family media plan can help you stay on track with screen time. Create yours atwww.healthychildren.org/English/media.

    © American Institute for Preventive Medicine

  • Forget The Ipad, Let Kids Play In Sand Or With Blocks

    FAMILY LIFE

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    When it comes to finding toys to encourage a child’s interest in science, sometimes simpler can be better and yet more sophisticated.

    Creighton University professor of physics Dr. Gintaras Duda suggests looking at toys with a tactile, kinesthetic component that can help illustrate scientific principles while allowing a child to come up with new ways to play.

    “If you can get kids to be creative, that’s the main thing,” Dr. Duda said. “Let them sort of figure out how these things work. It’s great scientific learning. Yes, kids love to play with the iPad, but if you dump a bin of Legos out in front of them and let them go, you’ll always be surprised at what they come up with.”

    Hands-on building blocks, tower sets, and a strangely behaving substance known as kinesthetic sand, which shares certain properties with regular sand but performs differently as it’s being molded, have all captured children’s attention and imagination.

    © American Institute for Preventive Medicine

  • Talking To Teens About Alcohol

    FAMILY LIFE

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    It’s not always easy, but it’s important to talk to your teenage children about the dangers of underage drinking. It can result in violence, sexual assault, brain development problems and even serious injury or death.

    According to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism, 35 percent of 15-year-olds have had at least one drink in their lives. Even if your child has never tried alcohol, many teens deal with peer pressure and need to know how to say no. Talking with your child may help prepare them to deal with these situations.

    The National Institutes of Health recommends the following tips for talking with your teen about drinking:

    *  Have open conversations about alcohol. Remain calm and answer questions honestly.

    *  Anytime the subject of alcohol comes up, use it as a chance to talk about it again. The message to avoid alcohol needs to be repeated.

    *  Tell your child about the dangers of alcohol. These include harming the body and brain and putting them in dangerous situations. Tell them underage drinking is against the law.

    *  Try “what if” situations. Ask them, “What if James asks you to try just a sip of beer?” Have them practice their response.

    *  Stress they should never get in a car with a person who has been drinking, even if they “just had one drink.” Alcohol affects teens differently than adults.

    © American Institute for Preventive Medicine

  • Getting Kids To Donate Old Toys

    FAMILY LIFE

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    After the holidays, many families find their house overrun with toys. If your kids received new toys as gifts and have old toys they don’t use anymore, consider donating the toys to families in need.

    Unfortunately, it’s not always easy to do this. Many parents find that children struggle to give up old toys. Even if they haven’t touched it in months, they may be unwilling to give the toy away.

    The American Academy of Pediatrics suggests these tips to get kids on board:

    *Make giving a part of family life.Try volunteering for a local charity as a family throughout the year. Talk to the kids about causes you support.

    *Talk to the kids about ways to give.Talk to your child about local charities that could use their old toys. A church nursery, children’s shelters, a child care center, and children’s hospitals are just a few options.

    *Ask for the kids’ help.Take some time to sort through old toys with your child. Try the “give one, keep one” approach so they can decide for themselves what stays and what goes.

    *Only donate toys that are safe, not broken, and clean.

    Tips for teaching gratitude to kids

    *Do small things for friends or neighbors.Have your children bring fresh food to a neighbor who lives alone, or help them rake leaves without asking for anything in return.

    *Talk to them about what they are thankful for each day.This can help parents too.

    *Say “thank you” to others whenever appropriate.This helps them learn by following your example.

    *Send thank-you notesand teach kids to send them after receiving birthday or holiday gifts.

    *Have them do age-appropriate chores.This gives kids an idea of all the work it takes to keep a household running.

    © American Institute for Preventive Medicine

  • Telling Kids About Tragedy

    FAMILY LIFE

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    Talking to kids about scary events and disasters is important when they’re old enough to understand. Kids may have more fear of an event if they don’t know any details. They may imagine something much worse than what happened.

    Although telling kids some details may help, the American Academy of Pediatrics says it’s important that you filter the information you give your child. Think about the child’s age, personality and what they will be able to cope with. These steps can get the conversation started:

    *Ask the child what they know about the event.This can help you separate facts from fiction. It gives you a way to explain the things they already know in a way that is direct but not scary.

    *Avoid any graphic details.Although the media may share lots of details that are graphic and scary, children should be shielded from these things.

    *Don’t be too vague.Saying “something happened that was bad” doesn’t give enough information. Instead, name the place where it happened and tell them that some people were hurt. The police/firemen/ government, etc. are helping people and working to keep us safe.

    *Keep it open ended.Tell them if they have any questions, they can ask you.

    Is your child coping?

    After a disaster, some children have a hard time coping. These red flags may be a sign that your child needs help:

    *  Trouble sleeping, nightmares or being very tired all the time

    *  Unusual aches and pains, such as headache or feeling “sick” often

    *  Appetite changes

    *  Social changes, such as aggression or being clingy

    *  Frequent feelings of sadness or fear

    Talk to your child’s doctor if you notice any of these changes.

    © American Institute for Preventive Medicine

  • Helping Your Child Succeed At School

    FAMILY LIFE

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    Although learning may be easier for some children than others, any child can find success at school with some extra help from their family. The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends these tips to help your child get a great education.

    Make reading a priority.

    Reading to your child helps them become a better learner. When they’re old enough, let them read to you. Don’t let reading be a chore. Make it a fun time for them by allowing them to choose books they enjoy. If they have difficulty reading aloud, offer to take turns reading to give them a break.

    Be involved.

    Ask your child about their class, their friends, and what they like about school. Attend parent-teacher conferences. If you’re concerned about how your child is doing, ask the teacher how you can help.

    Get them to bed on time.

    Children need the right amount of sleep for learning and good health. Lack of sleep affects the immune system, brain, and emotional control. To find out how much sleep your child needs, visitsleep.org/articles/how-much-sleep-children.

    Power their bodies with healthy food.

    Be sure your child eats a healthy breakfast each morning. Pack their favorite fresh fruits and vegetables in their lunches. Avoid soda and sugary drinks. A healthy diet can boost energy levels and help them stay alert.

    When a child is too sick for school

    Your child gets up in the morning and says she doesn’t feel well. It can be difficult to decide when your child truly needs to stay home, especially if  she doesn’t appear sick. In general, a child should stay home if she:

    *  Has a fever greater than 99.5 degrees

    *  Isn’t feeling well enough to participate in activities

    *  Has an illness that could spread to other children

    *  Has no appetite

    *  Has diarrhea, vomiting or nausea

    Often, you’ll have to use your best judgment to decide if your child should go to school. If he seems “not like himself” or you’re concerned about any symptoms, it’s usually best to play it safe and keep him home.

    © American Institute for Preventive Medicine

  • Tips For New Empty-Nesters

    FAMILY LIFE

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    Busy parents may dream of the day when they can have time to themselves again. But sometimes when the last child leaves home, parents are left with feelings of sadness and loss. This is known as “empty nest syndrome.”

    Empty nest syndrome happens to many parents. But, there are some ways to help prepare for it and cope with it once it happens.

    Pick a hobby with your spouse.Having an empty nest means you and your partner have more time to do fun things together. This can help you improve your relationship too.

    Get support from friends and family.Talk to those who have been through the empty nest experience.

    See a doctorif you think you may have depression.

    Stay in contact.Talk to your child over the phone, in texts, or online whenever you can.

    Look for new opportunities.Have you been putting off taking a class, working toward a promotion, or other interests? Now may be the time to try it.

    Experts point out that an empty nest isn’t always a time of sadness. Many parents find they enjoy their newfound freedom, according to the American Psychological Association. With today’s technology, it’s easier than ever to stay in touch. And many parents are excited to get more time for their own goals once their children are grown.

    Source: Vanderbilt University Child and Family Center

    Not-so-empty nest

    The number of adult children living with their parents is higher today than ever. Between 2005 and 2011, the percentage of young adults living in their parents’ home went up, according to the U.S. Census Bureau. The percentage of men age 25 to 34 living in their parents’ home rose from 14 percent in 2005 to 19 percent in 2011. For women of the same age, it rose from 8 percent in 2005 to 10 percent in 2011.

    © American Institute for Preventive Medicine

  • How To Make The Grade This School Year

    FAMILY LIFE

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    Start talking about the upcoming school year. Listen closely for fears or concerns, advises Dr. Amie Duncan of Cincinnati Children’s Hospital. “It is important that parents listen to and respond to their child’s potential anxieties about the new school year, especially if they are making a big transition such as from an elementary school to a middle school. It is perfectly normal to experience first day jitters,” she said. These feelings can be relieved with some of these suggestions.

    Preschoolers and kindergartners need to know what will happen.

    *  Visit the school together. Let them play on the playground, walk through the classroom, and meet new teachers.

    *  Go on a school shopping trip for a backpack and supplies. Assign a school prep area at home for supplies and lunchboxes.

    *  Tuck a small family picture in a backpack or lunch.

    *  Set bedtime and wake-up routines 4 weeks before school starts.

    *  Be positive and excited for the new school year.

    Elementary and middle-school children will need to adjust to new beginnings.

    *  Expect that your child may want trendy or “cool” school supplies.

    *  Take a quick trip to school before classes start to help find classrooms, lockers, the cafeteria, and the bus drop-off location.

    *  Right from the start, help your child get and stay organized. Choose places to store their backpack and a distraction-free area to complete homework.

    *  Talk to your child about high-risk behaviors, such as drinking, drug use, and sexual activity. Have this talk early and often.

    *  Encourage your child to choose to take part in at least one school club, sport, or other activity outside of school hours.

    *  Don’t hesitate to make an appointment with the school counselor right away if you have concerns about how your child is adjusting to school. Keep the lines of communication open.

    High schoolers need and thrive on positive reinforcement.

    *  Help your teen set realistic goals on how to earn the best grades and complete assignments.

    *  Stay organized. Buy a daily planner and teach your teen how to use it correctly or teach them how to organize their schedule with a tablet computer or laptop.

    *  Encourage your teen to get involved in at least one extracurricular activity or sport because it will help them meet people.

    *  Continue to support and encourage good study habits with regular homework/study times. Search for ways to offer positive support.

    *  Ask about what’s going on in your child’s life. (Use open-ended questions, rather than those that require only a “yes” or “no” response). Be an active listener without judging your child.

    *  Stay involved in your child’s school life and you will know what is going on, and how they are doing.

    © American Institute for Preventive Medicine